5 Ways Plant Medicine Can Heal Our Relationships

Plant medicines unveil the inner truth of our nature, and allow us to focus on fostering what is vital and sustaining. The quality of our relationships, whether it be with family, friends or lovers, determines the quality of our lives.

Plant medicine radically increases consciousness, making us better partners, more effective leaders, and kinder people. Plant medicine ceremonies involving Ayahuasca, 5 Meo DMT (Bufo), and Psilocybin all have proven scientific effects of decreasing rates of depression and anxiety. This letting go of mental suffering, is a byproduct of the alignment with a higher force, we can see beyond our own predicament. 

By healing our relationship to ourselves, we can then have healthier, more nourishing relationships with others. We are social animals, we exist to coexist, and the first fundamental relationship is to self. When we can truly live within ourselves, accepting all our faults and shortcomings with love, we can heal. This love extends outwards.

According to studies done by  Harvard Medical School, close relationships are more closely tied to happiness than money, social class, or high IQ. The director of this study, psychiatrist Robert Waldinger says that “Taking care of your body is important, but tending to your relationships is a form of self-care too. That, I think, is the revelation.”

Plant medicine helps us create more satisfactory relationships with self and other by bringing us back to our natural state of being, love. 

There are many ways to return back to this supreme state, and the five revelations below are how the medicine awakens us to this higher vibration. 

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1. Awaken the Ego Dissolution 

During a healing journey, the ego naturally dissolves in communion with Ayahuasca, 5 MeO DMT, or psilocybin. There is a seeing beyond yourself and your own problems. The bigger picture appears and there is a feeling of oneness with the universe. 

Our self-involvement seems narrow and tight, there is a need to break out of who we thought we were, to enter who we are. There is a process of letting go of the personality identifications and moving into who we are in our essence. As Wayne Dyer said “The ego is only an illusion, but a very influential one. Letting the ego-illusion become your identity can prevent you from knowing your true self.”

In relationships, there cannot be a meeting halfway if there is only concern for the self. Our minds obsess over ourselves and create fears, and guards that prevent love from coming in. When the ego and its need to protect itself dissipates, life can flow through. 

Out of the ego, there is less of a state of separation or otherness. When we can see ourselves in the other, there is naturally a better treatment of them and the practice of love. The ego judges, and the soul questions and yearns for understanding. When we can understand each other, it is impossible to hate or hold a grudge. We love others and treat them as we would ourselves. 

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2. Plant Medicine and Releasing Shame and Negative Emotions

During many ayahuasca ceremonies people purge for hours. There is an emotional release of stagnant energy stored itself in the body for years. (Its's a really good things!) This is a combination of the emotions we were taught to suppress, the memories too painful to look at, and the things buried deep within us. It all comes to the surface, and the darkness is vomited out. It is a cleansing process.

Most of the darker emotions, including shame and guilt, are not just our own. They have been taught through conditioning and programming. They have been fed to us generationally and culturally. 

Shame is not something we naturally feel, it is taught and then learned. To abhor our own desires, to repent, to suppress. Plant medicine allows us to question our mental constructs, most made by societal rules and not our inner truth. 

A friend of ours partook in an Ayahuasca journey because she was fighting an addiction to heroin, an addiction that came as a result of not knowing how to deal with the complex mix of shame and guilt when raped when she was young. She felt that as a female, she was now vexed for life, unworthy of love or a healthy relationship. She saw herself as damaged goods, impure. 

During her ceremony, she vomited and defecated for hours, and when she returned back to her daily life, she was not the same. She stopped doing heroin. Heroin was a way to cope with herself, and a form of self-harm. A coping mechanism for the worst experience that happened to her and made a part of her.

She released a part of her wounded adolescence and the narrative that she was dirty and filthy. She saw that what happened to her, was not her fault. It seems far out, but she even had compassion for the man who raped her, for to do something so cruel, he must have been in so much pain and deeply unconscious. 

When we can release the inner shame and guilt towards ourselves, our self-love can bloom, and we inevitably treat others better.

We are the foundation of all our relationships. When we can truly work on ourselves, we can show up better in the lives of others. 

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3. Increase in Compassion and Lovingness  

Plant medicines, such as those offered by Behold Retreats, often carry a feminine energy that manifests not as a soft or easy experience but as a profound sense of being held by the divine mother. This energy fosters a higher state of love and compassion, encouraging the release of darker emotions and the dissolution of the ego. Commonly, participants report transformative experiences during ceremonies, such as profound moments of empathy and forgiveness. For example, individuals dealing with deep-seated traumas may gain new perspectives on their relationships, finding clarity and understanding toward those they may have held resentment against. These experiences are often accompanied by revelations of love, euphoria, and connection, dissolving personal grievances and opening pathways to healing.

During ceremonies, many describe states of existential love, a powerful force that instills feelings of euphoria and unity. This transformative state reveals that when one embraces love and compassion, even the most difficult familial histories can be healed. These deeply emotional breakthroughs often lead to acts of reconciliation, where participants, no longer driven by anger or guilt, seek to address unresolved issues in their personal lives from a place of understanding and unity.

Plant medicine journeys allow participants to access deeply buried emotions and to reconnect with the core of their being, where love resides. This powerful force is often seen as the foundation of life, a guiding principle that sustains the human spirit in the face of adversity. Without love, many feel that life would lose its meaning, and these ceremonies offer a path to rediscover it, bringing about a profound sense of peace and purpose.

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4. The Interconnectedness of all Things

For many people, plant medicine is the call back to mother earth, and it changes the way in which we treat her. We are conscious of not only what we eat but how we consume and how much. With Ayahuasca and even Bufo, there is a specific vegetarian diet (Ayahuasca Dieta) to be followed, and we see how what we do matters, from what we eat to the method in which we source our food. 

Apart from physical health, there is an interconnectedness in mental health. We clearly see how every action has a reaction, and that what you do or say matters. There is an awareness of thoughts, a contemplative meditative state after plant medicine.

After the ceremony, people often feel very aware of how the quality of my thoughts created their reality. As a byproduct of this phenomenon, they thought less, and was very aware of their mental landscape. 

It may also feet like thoughts are just energy, and it was the same with the body and the mind. Everything was microcosms of vibration, moving and changing. This energy is how we connect to one another and the world at large. 

One may see how in this state of interconnection, lying or hurting another person turns them into an object. How they would energetically feel it, and how sensitive we truly are to others feelings. 

People often come out of ceremony wanting correct and clean energy in every action because of the realization that everything they do, becomes a butterfly effect. In turn, they stop lying to themselves and listened to their higher calling.

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5. Supreme Clarity

In a 5-MeO-DMT ceremony (Bufo Retreat), or any plant medicine retreat, participants often experience a profound sense of supreme clarity, where life events unfold before them without judgment or ego. Rather than labeling experiences as good or bad, individuals see their lives play out objectively. This state of clarity can reveal how past disempowerment may have stemmed from following the expectations of others, even if well-intentioned, rather than trusting one's inner compass. Patterns of negative behavior, rooted in early life experiences, become unmistakable, offering an opportunity for deep self-awareness and change.

This level of insight can be unsettling, particularly for those whose lives have been shaped by societal conditioning or external expectations. The realization that life is not linear, and that much of what has been learned needs to be unlearned, can lead to a lifelong journey of shedding programming and false beliefs. Many participants gain clarity on societal narratives, such as the harmful effects of 'us vs them' thinking, and how patriarchal norms or capitalistic values may have shaped personal ambitions and behaviors.

As this clarity develops, it often strengthens intuition. Participants become more attuned to which relationships and pursuits align with their authentic selves, choosing deeper, purpose-driven connections over superficial gains. This shift in perspective leads to a life lived with greater honesty and meaning, where joy is found in alignment with true values, and a renewed love for life emerges.

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As Ram Dass says, “Tell the truth and love everybody”

It is as simple and as complicated as that, “tell the truth, and love everybody.”

Relationships are messy and complex, just as our own inner lives can be. When we can participate in relationships from a place of presence, and with a desire to love and understand others, no matter how difficult they may be, our lives shift. There are fewer problems, and even when interpersonal issues arise, there is a clarity of seeing things as they truly are. We recognize that we cannot control others, and we stop trying to mold them into our own image. We allow life to unfold naturally and trust in the beauty that comes with it. We allow our relationships to evolve in the same way.

This is why, sometimes, proceeding with a plant medicine retreat without a partner can be so powerful. It offers the opportunity to focus entirely on personal healing and growth, free from the influence or emotional energy of a partner. Plant medicine experiences are deeply individual, and processing personal traumas or emotions in solitude can bring clarity to one’s own needs, desires, and unresolved issues that might impact the relationship. This individual journey doesn’t mean disconnecting from the partner but rather creating space for personal transformation, which can ultimately deepen and enrich the relationship. When we return, we come back with a clearer sense of self, more emotional availability, and a greater capacity to love and understand not only ourselves but also those we are in relationship with.

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